Thank you for visiting 18XEEM.com. This article may come to some of you as a surprise.

You may have heard that in 2008 I was the victim of a cyber stalker who defamed me on the internet. After months of investigation, the Warren Police Department and the Macomb County Prosecutor determined through forensic evidence that the culprit behind this criminal activity is a man named Nhia Lee, who also goes by the name of “Tyler” or “Tong Chai”.

I have not taken steps to sue Mr. Lee or anyone in this matter. However, using my web knowledge I was able to help the Warren Police in their investigation to determine that Mr. Lee was hiding behind a computer, anonymously cyber stalking and harassing me. I have asked law enforcement to ensure that he be prosecuted and, if found guilty (UPDATE: On April 9, 2010 Nhia Lee was found guilty and is now a convicted felon), that he be punished to the fullest extent of the law for his actions. Nhia Lee is charged with one count of a two-year felony by the state of Michigan, in Macomb County, the cybercrime of “Unlawful Posting of a Message” case no 09-. Mr. Lee has publicly admitted to committing the malicious acts that constitute this crime. As of March, 2, 2009, he is released on bail for $15,000. He currently resides in Shelby Township, Michigan.

Nhia Lee has alleged that he was a beauty pageant “organizer” who was trying to do a good deed by posting on the internet a video compilation that included images of a video of a nude woman that he alleged was me, Mai Hlee Xiong. As a former Miss Lao Hmong – Wisconsin (2004-2005) [click here to read an article that I wrote for 18XEEM about my pageant experiences], such an allegation and widespread dissemination of derogatory material about me is very hurtful. Yet I have had no contact from any pageant officials, organizations, or individuals asking me or demanding that I be stripped of my crown, title, or prize. Nor have I accused any community group, organization or individual other than Mr. Lee of instigating and defaming me.

Nhia Lee has never been an “organizer” of any beauty pageant. He was once a male pageant contestant [where he actually got 2nd place and threatened to sue the judges for not making him the winner!], as well as an emcee in the singing competition portion of the Hmong Michigan New Year 2007. His sister, Nee Lee, won the crown of Miss Hmong Michigan pageant 2007 (I was the runner-up that year). In fact, Mr. Lee was heavily involved in promoting his sister’s participation in the pageant.

After the pageant ended, Mr. Lee began to cyber stalk me on different media channels including MySpace for several months prior to the actual criminal incident. He collected and took personal photos of me and information on my personal life and even posted video clips of me and other former pageant contestants performing in public venues on YouTube without our knowledge or permission. He then made immature comments about each of us and mocking our abilities. In addition, Mr. Lee anonymously created a false profile in order to become my MySpace friend, using a fake name and photo of someone named “Jeffrey”. He also used my own photos and profile information to create a false profile of me. He pretended to be me and messaged my real friends in inappropriate ways and requested to be friends with strangers as if he were me. I have logs and logs of consecutive days where he visited my MySpace page and my website, HleeX.com, daily, during normal and odd hours like 2, 3 in the morning (if you are visiting this website, you should know that your information has been logged and documented as well).

Since this terrible incident, I have received numerous Google searches such as “pornstar Hlee Xiong”, “Hlee XXXiong”. I am telling you personally now, that is not the person that I am. I do not portray myself as such, and this is an insult to my family and to me. I have retained numerous documents showing page views and hits coming from Mr. Lee’s home IP address in Shelby Township, and his specific MySpace ID to prove that it was him who was cyber stalking me and sending out harassing and malicious emails to me and others.

Mr. Lee used photos that he lifted from my MySpace page and hand crafted a slideshow compilation of me and my family to create a false impression and defame my reputation. He created a YouTube account “TheHmongTruth” and uploaded the slideshow with an accompanying song called “Apologize” by Timbaland and One Republic, suggesting in the chorus that it was “too late to apologize”. Mr. Lee then used an anonymous email account that he specifically created for the purpose of widespread posting of the defamatory material under the name “thehmongtruth@yahoo.com”. He sent the material to multiple recipients who were close family, friends, and colleagues of me, including messages such as “Quit being a fake a$$ whore!” “pictahs” “uh oh….Wat ur excuse be now?” A friend of mine told this anonymous person to stop and reveal his true identity. Mr. Lee responded: “U is prolly a SlUt h3o like yo frend Mizz XXXiong! She aint no innocenT no mo huh? lol!”

Mr. Lee’s false and defamatory emails and postings were sent far and wide, to close family and friends of mine, to a pageant official, to dozens of Michigan State University students (where he attended school), as well as to several mailing lists that contain many more addresses. Finally, the material was then distributed virally on numerous discussion boards and online blogs by some recipients.

These materials were posted and sent throughout the same time my mother was still recovering from brain surgery at the hospital. During this time, my family and I were still grieving for my mother’s life while she fought to survive the effects of two aneurysms. And with Nhia Lee’s visual image and noise embedded in my mind, forever instilled in me, it made my life a living hell. I will never forget the chilling feeling that crossed my mind over this for as long as I live. I was frozen but shaken all at the same time. This experience is forever embedded into my mind and has caused me intense emotional upset.

I live my life by a moral standard, and that is to treat others the way you would expect them to treat you. I live my life to serve others and make others happy while putting my own happiness last. I am content, knowing that I can bring happiness to others. My success is my family’s success, and my success is shared in my community. Never have I had cruel intentions towards others. I am, the ‘girl with the smile, who always goes the extra mile’. I like to believe that there are good people in this world who strive to do good things. I used to believe that doing good things will yield good returns. And so I tried to do good things in my life for others. But now, I often wonder why bad things happen to good people?

A beloved uncle of mine once told me: “Use your intelligence to do good things in this world, not to do bad things to harm others”. And a famous Hmong saying goes, if Hmong do not love Hmong, who will love the Hmong? When I found out the truth from the Warren Police that it was a fellow Hmong American Nhia Lee who harassed and cyber-stalked me for months under the alias “TheHmongTruth” I was deeply hurt knowing that this cruel person came from my own community. I was always taught that we should stand together, support each other, and love each other, because ‘we are like one family’ and we stem from the same tree. There is no good reason why Nhia Lee would do what he did to me. I have never given him any reason to treat me in a hostile manner. There are no words to describe all the feelings that I have internally. Nhia Lee violated and invaded my privacy. He harmed the only family I have. My community has suffered greatly and felt betrayed by Nhia Lee and his family’s senseless acts and animosity.

Before I went to the police I asked Nhia Lee directly if he did it. I was willing to accept an apology if he would cease doing it. But he denied it, belittled me for it, and recruited his family in perpetrating his lie. Now that he has admitted to be the perpetrator behind TheHmongTruth@yahoo.com it is clear that he has brought the same onto his family and community.

As the victim of an awful cyber stalking crime, I have decided to come forward from here on out to let people know that they do not have to suffer cyber stalking silently and can fight back against online defamation by cowards who hide behind false identities on the internet. Companies like LifeLock help with deterring identity theft and the consequences that come with it. Because of the terrible experience that I went through and am still going through today, I have set up a resource website to help create awareness of the crime, and to provide a forum for people who use social networks such as Facebook, MySpace and YouTube to assist them in preventing cyber stalking.

So please visit WWW.QUITSTALKINGME.COM to find out more.

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First, I want to thank you for all of your support. This past year wouldn’t have been possible without the help of 18XEEM contributing writers, artists, photographers, friends, family and readers. This month we are celebrating the official one year anniversary of 18XEEM with our launch party in Warren, Michigan on June 13, 2008. As you might have noticed our office is located in Cedarburg, Wisconsin, but our content spans across states, countries and continents. 18XEEM was conceived here in Michigan, and has since expanded in all directions. This expansion has a deeper significance: our roots as nomadic people is influential in the way that the Hmong people have settled and continue to evolve. We now live all over the world and are represented in all aspects of public life. Our history has allowed our culture to branch out and our people to adapt to changes. Likewise, 18XEEM continues to evolve with our culture, continually expanding and growing in richness and diversity to reach our global audience.

In an effort to reach more youth, educators and entrepreneurs, we’ve attended as many events (big and small) as possible like the CHAT (Center for Hmong Arts & Talent) Annual Art & Music Festival, HNC (Hmong National Conference), and several student-run cultural shows across the country; created relationships with numerous organizations including Hmong National Development, Great Lakes Hmong Association, Inc., Hmong Wisconsin Radio, and APIAVote-Michigan; and most recently, sponsored two volleyball teams from the men’s and women’s divisions for the annual Hmong Michigan Soccer Tournament & Festival.

This newsletter highlights some of the stories for what’s ahead. In our next issue, we’ll be featuring more new content on amazing people and events happening around our communities. In an effort to bring you the content-rich stories and editorials, the 18XEEM team has collectively agreed to publish 18XEEM magazine as a quarterly publication instead of bi-monthly as stated previously. All subscribers will still receive the 6 issues for the $20, which can rollover into the next year when applicable. Our decision to extend the publication dates, will allow us to bring you more compelling stories and images, which will ultimately give you more value for your important commitment in us.

As always, I look forward to hearing your thoughts!

18XEEM Launch Party Photos by Caroline Vang | June 13, 2008

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The Elite Group is an extension project, which was started by a few individuals including myself, who felt it was important to hand-select certain individuals from different communities and backgrounds to discuss and brainstorm innovative and interesting stories that could potentially be featured in 18XEEM to further reach the goals and mission of 18XEEM.I found it ironic and amazing at the same time when I realized that as a small visionary project, 18XEEM started somewhere in the small space of my humble home with the goal to preserve parts of culture and history, but throughout our endeavors, we have also influenced culture, people, and events like never before, thus changing history in the making…

Language and art are two powerful tools, and we hope to never take too much advantage of it, which is why people of different backgrounds, ages, professions, experiences and knowledge were encouraged to join The Elite Group’s Cultural Dialogue, in hopes of gaining a better perspective on our culture and society. Next time, I invite you to share your story, so that someone else doesn’t write it for you! If you’re aching to tell someone something… please, don’t hesitate to send me an email. I promise, I’ll be quick in responding – my colleagues will attest to that!

This issue is dedicated to the beautiful women who have made our lives so much more meaningful – like our sisters, mothers, grandmothers, aunts… and of course, our friends. The women in these pages have one way or another empowered so many individuals on all different levels. I hope that you too will be motivated by their achievements and the strength of their spirits. I know, you are probably thinking, where’s the male’s section? Stay tuned until next time, and you’ll see!

One thing is clear, Hmong (along with other Asian groups) are becoming increasingly familiar with mainstream media and are adapting it to suit their needs. Amid all of these new magazines, we believe that what sets 18XEEM apart is that the essence of our magazine is tradition, and that never goes out of style.

One day when I was feeling overwhelmed and disillusioned, a college professor told me to do the Zig-zag. I didn’t get it at first, but he went on to explain, “When everyone is doing one thing, you do the opposite, and when everyone follows, change your path so that you will always stand apart.” Interestingly, on two recent occasions, my father reminded me of this same concept (flip to the opposite side of this magazine if you are curious).

18XEEM is documenting life; preserving history; taking the ordinary and appreciating it for what it is; revealing the treasures of the unknown and the beauty of a culture. This year, our resolution is to celebrate our culture and the meaningfulness within our everyday. I hope you will enjoy this issue more than ever.

Please, join us in celebrating history and culture.

As the editor, and creator of 18XEEM, a cultural Hmong magazine, my goal is to preserve our culture, our people, and to document our achievements through language and art, so that it can continue to exist, when we all cease to exist. I hope that you all will help support this magazine so that it can continue to grow, and to reach more individuals; so that not only can they learn about a culture, through reading, but that those who were once a part of this culture, will also remember their history and their heritage, and their humble roots.

Secondly, my goal was to showcase a beautiful and unique people, who, too often, are portrayed negatively in the mainstream media. Who, too often, is also mistaken, unknown, quiet, and unprivileged because of a language or cultural barrier. No one should be the main author of our culture and our people more than ourselves.

18XEEM is meant to be shared and given to those who know least, and I hope that when you finish reading, that you will pass it on to a friend, or a co-worker.

In this issue, we are celebrating the Hmong around the world, and although we could not cover every country, we hope that this will give you an idea of how far the distance separates us from each other, yet how close we still are, in our language and our clothing.

This is something that is so unique to the Hmong, and I hope it will inspire you to seek for more answers that we may not have covered. Thank you to everyone who has continued to support us and to those who we will meet along the way.